I had an amazing and easy pregnancy with my twins, but the months before that were filled with a number of negative pregnancy tests and multiple failed fertility treatments. It was very difficult, especially because having kids was always part of my plan.
When I was growing up, some people wanted to be doctors or lawyers—and then there was me. I wanted to be a mom. I wanted a big family with at least four kids. I think big families are fun. Plus, who will take care of me when I am old if I don't have lots of kids?
Supposed to Be Easy
My mom had always told me that she got pregnant easily, so I never thought for an instant it would be any different for me. After my husband and I tried for six months to get pregnant with no results, I started charting my ovulation, taking my temperature, and buying ovulation predictor kits to help my chances of getting pregnant. This was supposed to be easy, and I was pretty darn sure I was doing it right!
My friends were getting pregnant right and left after just a few months of trying. Some even got pregnant the first month they tried! I celebrated my friends' great news and held tightly to my mantra that that was the way it was supposed to happen for people. It just wasn't happening for me.
The worst was when people would ask when we were going to have a baby. "It's not for lack of trying," I would tell them.
After a few more months, I made an appointment with a fertility clinic to see if something was wrong. I was supposed to be pregnant already. I thought it was going to be so easy, but it had not happened after a year of trying. The doctors couldn't find anything wrong, so they started me on infertility treatments. We did three medicated IUIs (intrauterine insemination) with no success.
Infertility treatments are expensive and at that time were not covered by our insurance. When we ran out of money, we took a break from the treatments to see if we could get pregnant on our own.
After another year of negative pregnancy tests, we went to a different fertility clinic. The new doctor came highly recommended by a family friend, so we hoped that he had a different approach to our situation of unexplained infertility. At our first meeting with the doctor, we told him we would like to have twins. "If we had gotten pregnant on our own, we would have two kids by now," we explained.
Our insurance now covered IUIs, so we decided to do three more cycles. If that didn't work, we would move on to IVF. Insurance didn't cover IVF, so we were crossing our fingers that we wouldn't have to shell out the money for it. It cost a minimum of $20,000!
The first IUI cycle was a failure. I was heartbroken and just wanted to move on to IVF. It had been 27 months now and four unsuccessful IUIs, so I felt like that approach was not going to be my route to a baby.
My husband begged me to try one more IUI cycle before we spent the big bucks on IVF. I agreed but was convinced that it wasn't going to work. While doing the procedure, the doctor joked, "There you go. You are pregnant now." I laughed and said, "Yeah, right!"
Luckiest Mom on the Planet
Two weeks later, I got a positive pregnancy test for the first time in 28 months! We went to the doctor's office for the blood test to confirm. My beta numbers were a little on the high side, making twins a good possibility.
We had to wait two weeks for a sonogram. We had already convinced ourselves that it was twins; when we saw the two little black circles on the screen, we were elated. It was one of the best days of my life.
I went on to have an amazing twin pregnancy with no complications. I joke that I'm not so good at getting pregnant but am really great at being pregnant. I really feel like the luckiest mom on the planet to be blessed with such an amazing family.
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