"You are pregnant." Yes! Awesome! Wahoooo!
"It's twins." Ummm, excuse me? Could you repeat that, please?
Sound familiar? If your experience was similar to mine, you almost fell off the ultrasound table and your husband may have needed a defibrillator when you found out you were having twins. In our case, we were not even trying to get pregnant with one baby let alone two! It was overwhelming, exciting, and scary all at the same time.
After the shock of expecting twins has worn off a bit, you will have a ton of questions and lots decisions to make. Should I change doctors to someone who specializes in high-risk pregnancies or multiples? Should I deliver at a hospital that has a great NICU? What tests should I have done? Should I find out the sex of the twins?
Also, what type of delivery should I have? What type of delivery should I have? What type of delivery should I have? I kept getting stuck on that one.
Vaginal or C-Section?
Whether to deliver your twins vaginally or via C-section could be the single most important decision you make. Do some research, and ask lots of questions. Don't just ask your doctor, though. Ask other twin moms about their experiences and whether they would make the same decision if they had to do it again. Also ask yourself what kind of personality you have.
I am a bit of a control freak and I don't like surprises, so early on I was pretty sure I was going to have a C-section. The fact that I was having twins was just about all the excitement I could take. I think I have watched too many Lifetime movies. All I could picture was me having crazy painful contractions and rushing to the hospital with a thousand people in the delivery room screaming and crying. Chaos everywhere!
And then some more screaming and moaning and yelling.
It was just too much. I needed a scheduled C-section.
I think the main factor in my decision was the fear that I would have Baby A vaginally and then come to find out Baby B was breech, therefore ultimately requiring a C-section as well. This actually happens a lot, and I knew I wanted to avoid that at all costs. There was no way I was going to put my body through both a vaginal delivery and a C-section in the same day. I finalized my decision to have a C-section at about 35 weeks.
A lot of women worry about the scar that comes with a C-section. Mine is actually super low, only about 3 inches long, and not bad at all. In fact, I'm still rockin' a bikini!
When I was debating between a vaginal delivery or a C-section, I told myself that the scar was purely cosmetic and could be easily fixed down the road if it was awful. At that point, the most important thing to me was to get my twins out safely. I felt that a predictable, controlled environment was the best way to do this.
To this day, I do not regret my decision. You will hear horror stories about both C-section and vaginal deliveries. Try to focus on what you are comfortable with and what is the best, safest route for you to get your little bundles to arrive safe and sound. Once you are holding those little angels, you won't be worried about scars, rips, tears, or the like.
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