Noel, married to Twin Mom Mari, became a father to identical twin girls in September 2008.
Describe the first moments when you found out you were going to be a father of twins.
My wife and I had been trying to have children for some time, so when we learned that there were two heartbeats, I truly couldn’t believe it at first. In literally a matter of days, we went from thinking we may not have kids at all to finding out we would have two. I have to admit that the thought of paying for two kids’ college educations simultaneously entered my mind, but overwhelmingly what I felt was excitement. At that moment, I realized that my life was going to change a great deal. Very soon thereafter, I started a search for a bigger home!
What are the best pieces of advice you received as a twin dad?
One of the simplest yet most helpful pieces of advice I received was that having twins is hard at first, but it gets easier and more fulfilling as time goes by.
What do you like most about being a father of twins?
I enjoy watching my daughters learn together. I love that they will always have someone to play with and that they will almost surely be best friends for the rest of their lives. I also enjoy watching them develop as individuals with different personalities and mannerisms.
What did you find the most difficult during the pregnancy and after the birth of the twins?
During the pregnancy, it was difficult to see my wife so uncomfortable and not be able to do much about it. Toward the end, she could barely walk. After the birth of the twins, I struggled with the lack of sleep. Also, I had no prior experience with infants, so I had a lot of learning to do—changing diapers, feeding two babies at the same time, etc.
What products or resources would you recommend for twin dads?
Consider buying a double jogging stroller so you can spend quality time with the twins while also getting a bit of exercise. Also, you’ll need to seriously consider an SUV or minivan, particularly if you plan to go on road trips with the jogging stroller and the rest of the baby gear!
Does life ever get back to “normal”?
Well, if “normal” means being able to do whatever you want whenever you want, the answer is no. But that’s the case whether you have twins or just one child. Your life will be forever changed, and definitely for the better.
What advice do you have for twin dads?
Being a dad of twins can be exhausting at times, but more often than not it is a wonderful experience. There will be times when the twins only want mommy, particularly when they are sick or overly tired. Don’t let this frustrate you. You will have plenty of time to bond with them too.