Whether to dress your twins alike or not is a personal decision, but lots of people will give you their opinion on it. Some will tell you "It's not good to dress your twins alike. It doesn't allow them to express their differences." Others will say, "You should definitely dress them alike. It is so cute!" In the end, it's up to you.
Special Occasion Matching
I enjoyed dressing my twin girls, Jennifer and Jessica, alike on special occasions when they were little. They looked adorable, and it made for some cute pictures. For their christening, for example, my mother-in-law made them beautiful matching gowns with bonnets.
I also dressed them the same on days like their first birthday and Christmas. Even if they weren't wearing the exact same dress, they were wearing complementary dresses. One year for Christmas, I found the prettiest Ralph Lauren long-sleeve knit dress in red with a gold pony. It was so cute! But the store only had one, so I also bought one in black with a silver pony. Jennifer wore a black velvet headband (she barely had hair!), and Jessica wore a black velvet bow. I loved how they looked in pictures!
Eventually, I stopped dressing my twins alike for a couple of reasons:
- I realized I could save a lot of money by not buying the same outfit twice.
- They developed totally different tastes. (Those of you who are familiar with the TV show "Sex and the City" will know what I mean when I say I have a Carrie and a Charlotte.)
I felt better about spending more money on nice outfits when I knew my twins would be sharing them. I have always bought separate shoes for them, though, which can be costly and time-consuming to shop for. My girls wear different sizes and their feet are shaped differently, so it just has never been comfortable for them to share shoes.
Now that they are 4 and in preschool, my twins help pick out their outfits the night before. This allows them to have more say in what they wear and to express their individuality. Only rarely do they want to wear the same outfit—but when they do, look out! This is a great opportunity to teach them how to share and that there is always a second option.
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